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Month: May 2017

Advice · Strangers

You Witness Harassment

31/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

I’m guessing that by now you’ve heard about the murders of two men in Portland this past week. They — along with another surviving injured man — were stabbed by a white supremacist who was verbally harassing two young Black women, one of whom was wearing clothing that signaled to the terrorist that she was… Continue reading You Witness Harassment

Advice · Strangers

Hiring Someone To Clean Your Home

29/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

I’m hiring a house cleaner for the first time and I’m a little nervous about it. I’m not used to strangers being in my home or having access to my stuff. I can also be neurotic about how I want things done. I don’t really know how this is supposed to go. Is it rude… Continue reading Hiring Someone To Clean Your Home

Advice · Strangers

You See People Feeding Wild Animals

26/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

How do I not be a jerk when I’m in nature and see someone trying to hand feed human food to a squirrel? 

Advice · Strangers

Staying In A Hotel

25/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

My family growing up was poor and it was extremely rare for us to stay at a hotel. My mom used to say that you have to either tip housekeeping or clean your own room. Before we left she would make us clean everything, strip the beds, take out the garbage, things like that. Clearly… Continue reading Staying In A Hotel

Essays · Strangers

On Vacation

24/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

This week’s travel series was inspired because (in the U.S. at least) we are heading into summer. Late May through early September is the time when temperatures heat up, kids are out of school, and people start taking more trips. Whether its a weekend at a nearby beach, or the dream vacation you’ve been planning… Continue reading On Vacation

Advice · Strangers

Encounter a Roundabout (and other driving etiquette)

23/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

Can you please inform the world how not to be a jerk when encountering roundabouts and other traffic calming devices. A word about one lane streets would be appreciated as well.

Advice · Strangers

Flying (child edition)

22/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

I’ll be flying with my infant for the first time in a few weeks. Do people not realize how incredibly stressful it is to try to bring an infant anywhere, let alone on a cross country flight? It will take us hours of preparation and planning to try to make sure we have everything we… Continue reading Flying (child edition)

Advice · Strangers

You Have Resting Bitch Face

19/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

I have resting bitch face, which makes me kind of look like an unfriendly jerk any time I am not actively smiling. This upsets other people and then I am somehow a jerk for not being able to hold a prom photo smile 24 hours a day. I go back and forth between thinking that… Continue reading You Have Resting Bitch Face

Essays · Friendship

Someone You Care About Loses Someone (Part 1)

17/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

Here is a thing that has been gnawing at me for a few months. I received a related question that I will definitely answer, but I wanted to take up a little bit of this space to work through my own thoughts on how to not be a jerk when someone I care about loses… Continue reading Someone You Care About Loses Someone (Part 1)

Advice · Friendship

Your Vegan Friend Wants More Food Options

15/05/201714/03/2018 AshleyLeave a comment

My friend is vegan and gets upset when meals aren’t centered around her at social gatherings. It drives me nuts. I always make sure there is something she can eat, but I don’t make a huge second option for her. I kind of feel like if she is going to be that restrictive with her… Continue reading Your Vegan Friend Wants More Food Options

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