Last summer I wrote the below-linked essay. I’m re-posting it today, much to my surprise. I wasn’t sure I’d ever experience 80F (27C) heat in London; I certainly didn’t expect it in mid-April. To my UK friends – stay hydrated and find some A/C. My gym has it, so my workouts this week might get… Continue reading It’s Hot Again!
There’s one topic that I’ve probably complained about on Twitter more than any other, and that’s public phone usage. I see a lot of articles bemoaning how Twitter / Facebook / Snapchat / Instagram / Candy Crush keeps us from interacting with the live humans right in front of us, but I’m more interested in how… Continue reading Using Your Phone (As A Phone) In Public
My 7 year old was invited to a Disney princess themed costume birthday party. She has her heart set on going as Moana. We’re white and I’m concerned about cultural appropriation. Should I make her choose a white princess? I assume other kids will likely be there and dressed as Jasmine, Pocahontas, Tiana, Mulan, etc.… Continue reading Picking a Disney Princess Costume
Up until this point, all members of our Asshole Hall of Fame have been people (or ‘people,’ depending on how you look at it). Today I’d like the offer up a new and different type of Asshole: The Asshole Holiday. Specifically, April Fool’s Day. April Fool’s Day is the worst holiday. Like, objectively. It generally… Continue reading Inductee Number 54: April Fool’s Day
Everything is going really well. Like, REALLY well. My work is great, my boss is supportive, I finally make good money. My personal hobbies have been extremely rewarding and I’ve found a lot of success and new opportunities. But I find that when people ask, “How are you?” the expected answer is “Oh, fine. How… Continue reading Life Is Good
I’ve finally gotten settled into my new city of London, which means it’s time to get back to answering questions and writing essays. Over the last few months I did a little redesign of the website, and changed the name. Asshole is a GREAT, descriptive word, but it creates its own set of challenges. So… Continue reading And We’re Back!
Popping in here quickly to add a whopping FIFTY-ONE adult humans to the Asshole Hall of Fame. While you were sleeping last night, these folks chose to vote yes on a tax bill that hadn’t been fully written yet. A tax bill that, among other things, prevent teachers from deducting the cost of any school… Continue reading Inductees Number 3-53: The 51 Senators Who Voted Yes
There are a few exciting things going on behind the scenes here at How Not to Be A JerkWhen… which means that posts are going to be a bit irregular for the rest of the year. Please continue submitting questions here; I’ll work to answer them within a couple of weeks. I’ll also share essays… Continue reading Pause
I posted the below open letter to FEMA Administrator Long on my personal website. As some of you know, my day job involves emergency management. the recent statements related to the response in Puerto Rico by both Administrator Long and the current President are deeply offensive to me. Although I did not frame the letter… Continue reading Overseeing Disaster Response
My housemate does not believe that you could be assigned the wrong gender at birth. He’s liberal in every other way. He was a Bernie supporter. Pro equality. Is LGB friendly. Even understands people who are gender queer. He isn’t overly religious. He hasn’t had negative interactions with people in the trans community. He isn’t… Continue reading Your Friend is Transphobic